“The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.”—
And this my friends works with every kind of discrimination. Sexism isn’t just actively excluding women, homophobia isn’t only people beating up gay couples, transphobia isn’t just murdering trans people.
An “egalitarian” is someone who, realizing that a scale is imbalanced because there are six pounds on one side and twelve on the other, seeks to correct the imbalance by adding six pounds to both sides.
well that was the best damn explanation I’ve seen.
Cosplay is a ton of work, and a cosplayer’s worst nightmare is having something go wrong at con. I’ve had minor panic attacks when a vital piece snaps off during the con after months of prep work. :(
On top of that, we’ve all had stressful moments were we just need to have a breather, grab a…
This is stupid. You know what my Cosplay Recovery Lounge is? My hotel room. The tone of this is SO off-putting, too. Like “ugh, those pesky fans wanting photos!” & cosplayers being “good for the con” or whatever. Eat a piece of humble pie & spare me your whining.
A friend shared this photo from Pepto-Bismol today, and it irked the hell out of me:
I really, REALLY wish that a medication that’s made to help gastrointestinal issues- that by its very existence acknowledges that every single human being has a GI tract and produces waste- would not resort…
Fuck going to parties. I’d like to be able to do a complete shift without having to run to the toilet like Usain Bolt because I am terrified of shitting myself.
IBS and going for a dump is a perfectly natural process. Christ, my daughter has seen my “Poo Face” (The face you pull when you have to strain”.
FUCK YOU PEPTO BISMAL, I will shit in whoevers toilet is closest to me and I will NOT feel guilt for it!
A friend shared this photo from Pepto-Bismol on facebook today, and it irked the hell out of me:
I really, REALLY wish that a medication that’s made to help gastrointestinal issues- that by its very existence acknowledges that every single human being has a GI tract and produces waste- would not resort to shaming people as an advertising tactic. This ad says “nobody likes people who poop in other peoples’ houses/at parties! BUY OUR PRODUCT SO YOU DON’T!” You could argue that it means “don’t get stuck in the bathroom and miss all the fun”, but the choice of “nobody likes” (which could have easily been “nobody wants to be” if you wanted to imply that) and the “here’s to not being that guy” caption both undermine that defense.
Real talk time: this attitude is why I haven’t gone to more parties in my life. A very real consideration that I have to make every time I get invited out is “will my intestines be able to handle it if I eat or drink at this party” (or sometimes, will it be able to handle it even if I don’t). I don’t worry about this because parties don’t have bathrooms- I worry about it because I know that if I have to run to the bathroom 3 or 4 times in a half an hour, people are going to get judgmental. Someone’s going to walk out of that bathroom talking about how it reeks, and I’m going to feel like a jerk while everyone laughs and tries to guess who did it. This attitude towards pooping- a BASIC BODILY FUNCTION- has had a very real negative impact on my social life.
If I need bismuth subsalicylate anytime soon, I’m going for Kaopectate or a generic instead of Pepto-Bismol. It might seem minor but I’m done giving poop shame a pass.
straight boys are weak and pathetic, queer girls walk into the ladies changing room and see ten women naked, do they stare? do they say something inappropriate? do they make them uncomfortable? no because they have the common fucking sense to recognise when a situation is sexual and that people deserve the most basic level of respect to not be harassed, yet here we are banning shorts and low cut tops in school because straight boys are weak and pathetic
This weekend I was schmoozing at an event when some guy asked me what kind of history I study. I said “I’m currently researching the role of gender in Jewish emigration out of the Third Reich,” and he replied “oh you just threw gender in there for fun, huh?” and shot me what he clearly thought to be a charming smile.
The reality is that most of our understandings of history revolve around what men were doing. But by paying attention to the other half of humanity our understanding of history can be radically altered.
For example, with Jewish emigration out of the Third Reich it is just kind of assumed that it was a decision made by a man, and the rest of his family just followed him out of danger. But that is completely inaccurate. Women, constrained to the private social sphere to varying extents, were the first to notice the rise in social anti-Semitism in the beginning of Hitler’s rule. They were the ones to notice their friends pulling away and their social networks coming apart. They were the first to sense the danger.
German Jewish men tended to work in industries which were historically heavily Jewish, thus keeping them from directly experiencing this “social death.” These women would warn their husbands and urge them to begin the emigration process, and often their husbands would overlook or undervalue their concerns (“you’re just being hysterical” etc). After the Nuremberg Laws were passed, and after even more so after Kristallnacht, it fell to women to free their husbands from concentration camps, to run businesses, and to wade through the emigration process.
The fact that the Nazis initially focused their efforts on Jewish men meant that it fell to Jewish women to take charge of the family and plan their escape. In one case, a woman had her husband freed from a camp (to do so, she had to present emigration papers which were not easy to procure), and casually informed him that she had arranged their transport to Shanghai. Her husband—so traumatized from the camp—made no argument. Just by looking at what women were doing, our understanding of this era of Jewish history is changed.
I have read an article arguing that the Renaissance only existed for men, and that women did not undergo this cultural change. The writings of female loyalists in the American Revolutionary period add much needed nuance to our understanding of this period. The character of Jewish liberalism in the first half of the twentieth century is a direct result of the education and socialization of Jewish women. I can give you more examples, but I think you get the point.
So, you wanna understand history? Then you gotta remember the ladies (and not just the privileged ones).
Sirius’s death gets a lot sadder when you remember that over the summer, he gave Harry that mirror so they could talk. If Harry had just used that god damn thing, he would have seen that Sirius was in no danger at the end of the year.
he finds out elsa has powers, fixes anna’s head, and instead of GIVING ANY USEFUL FUCKING ADVICE, instead gives this cryptic bullshit warning that leads to elsa losing her entire childhood and freezing all of arendelle.
BECAUSE HE DIDN’T USE MORE DAMN WORDS.
ps: (and this is what makes me SERIOUSLY raise my eyebrow at him) he also LISTENED TO THE KING OUTLINE THE PLAN TO TOTALLY ISOLATE ELSA and didn’t even clarify at that point. despite the fact that the king was almost literally saying “we are afraid of our child and we’re going to make sure she’s afraid of herself, too” which is EXACTLY WHAT HE JUST WARNED THEM AGAINST. FEAR.